Sermon Title: “Creating Chemistry”

June 3, 2018

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Who gets the TV remote? Who loads the dishwasher? They may seem like “relationship issues,” but in reality, questions like this are not unique to your relationship. The underlying problem isn’t “relationship issues,” “girlfriend issues,” or “family issues.” It’s far more significant than that. “It’s not you, it’s me” isn’t the start of the breakup, it’s the start of healing.

1 Corinthians 13

1 Corinthians 13 is closer to an instruction manual than it is to Shakespeare

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If you’re not responsible, you can’t make it better.

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1 John 4:8
1 John 3:18

Love is a choice.

We attempt to put romantic love into a “chemistry” category because it absolves us of the responsibility.

How to create chemistry:

  • Turn Paul’s descriptive statement into questions.
  • Example: Love is patient = Am I patient?

Wedding vows are meant to be promises, not poetry.

Relationships help us become the best person we can be- and also the very worst version of ourselves! It all depends on how you choose to be and many times we act on our feelings instead of a decision of who we want to be-in this relationship and as an individual. Gods’ love for us can be the foundation of all of our relationships and help us to be the best version of who He designed us to be in all of our relationships.

Questions for Reflection:

  • What do you think God’s feelings are toward you? How do you know? Where did you learn this?

  • Do you see the best or worst version of yourself in your closest relationships?
    (Like the 1 Corinthians 13 passage) Are you patient, kind, humble, etc.? Which virtue in the list of the 1 Corinthians passage do you do best/worst?

  • Have you ever worked through a difficulty in a relationship, where the “feelings” have changed – distance, hurt, anger, or distrust – to a new and better place? What did you learn about yourself? What choices did you have to make that didn’t “feel” natural or come easy?

  • If you have experienced the loss of a relationship due to “not feeling” the same as when it started, what did you learn about yourself?

  • None of us is perfect – perfection is not the goal – rather becoming more like Christ each day. On a scale of 1-10, (1 being not at all and 10 being totally me) how much does your expectation of others being perfect challenge your relationships? On the same scale, do you expect perfection from yourself in relationships?

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