In our increasingly divided society it can be tempting to take on the role of Hero Maker if for nothing else than to perpetuate our views, ideas, and convictions. When we approach our relationships from the posture of expert teacher or wise advisor, though, we will be quickly disappointed when things don’t go our way, or when someone doesn’t heed our counsel. When we position ourselves as the ultimate authority we have a vested interest in maintaining our image and power at the expense of others, causing further division. We see this very scenario play out in 1 Kings 12:1-16.

It can be tempting to point the finger here, both at Rehoboam for taking the wrong counsel, and at his father’s advisors for not practicing what they preached. But the question we should be asking isn’t “who’s at fault,” but rather “who is going to make it better?” We see in the story of Rehoboam that all the problems we encounter, the brokenness we observe, and the division that we perpetuate, could be made better if we removed ourselves from the center of the story and offered ourselves as humble servants. Jesus confirms this in Matthew 20:26 saying, “Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant.” Instead of posturing ourselves as the ultimate authority, we are invited to transform the world by serving.

Questions for Reflection:

• When you encounter a problem, a mess, or an issue, do you tend to ask, “who’s at fault,” or “who is going to make it better?”

• What could your life look like if you approached all your relationships as a humble servant rather than an expert teacher or wise advisor?

• The issue at the heart of the story of Rehoboam is ego, rather than development. Development happens because of a heart set right. Where might you need to examine your ego, and begin serving, to remove yourself from the center of the story you are living?

Practice:

Take time this week to participate in a service inventory. The point of this inventory is not to place blame or guilt, but simply to reveal how we spend our resources and invite reflection on how we can more actively engage in serving causes and people outside of ourselves. Take a piece of paper and divide it into three columns. At the top of the first column write, “For me.” At the top of the second, “For others.” Finally, at the top of the third write, “For God.” Now take some time to reflect on the past day, week, or month. In each column, write what you have bought or done for yourself, others, and God.

What does this inventory reveal about your life and relationships? Reflect on the nature of those you have served. Are they people just like you? What might God be inviting you to considering this inventory?